The Recipe for a Perfect Relationship

I have been thinking a lot about what makes up a perfect relationship, what is the formula. What truly makes a relationship work? I thought back on my own relationships and what I had in some and lacked in another. Each partner you have will obviously have different characteristics and different love languages. But, when you and your partner have The Big 3 in a relationship, that is when you know it is something special. Obviously, this goes without saying but, besides my big 3, a relationship should always have trust, respect, and loyalty. So, you can think back to the previous relationships in your life and see if you were missing any of the big 3, perhaps that is why it didn’t work out. If you want to see if your relationship has the big 3, then keep reading.

Passion

This one is definitely a big aspect of a relationship. Every single person craves that wild passion with their partner. Having a strong attraction physically, mentally, and spiritually is a huge factor in a long-lasting relationship. Obviously in the beginning “honeymoon phase” the passion is always stronger, but when it stays and continues for years that is special. Understandably, passion can come and go but when you have it, it sure is something that keeps a relationship full of fire and excitement. A bit of jealously and whirl-win romance will keep you engaged and in love.

Friendship

This one is something everyone hopes they will find. To quote Bridgerton, “To meet a beautiful woman is one thing, but to meet your best friend in the most beautiful of woman is something entirely apart.” I just really love that quote. When you find someone that you want to spend your life with, wouldn’t you want them to be your best friend. A best friend is someone you can joke around and be silly with, someone you can gossip with, and never get sick of. A friend will never judge you or make you feel embarrassed. Being super open and able to talk about absolutely anything with your partner is something rare and special.

Seriousness

I can’t really think of a better word for this, but I think seriousness is good enough. When in a relationship, as passionate and silly as you may be together, it is also important to be serious and compassionate towards each-other. Kind of like when the going gets tough, it’s important to know your partner will be there for you. Being able to discuss deep and serious issues with your partner shows you respect each-other and have a strong bond. Things can’t always be fun and games you should always be checking up on each other and be openly expressing you’re feeling and concerns.

There you have it, my big 3. These are all my own opinions through my own experiences. I have had some relationships with just one of these, and I have had relationships with two of these, and in my relationship now I have all three and I feel pretty special. Every relationship is different, but I think these 3 things are the recipe for a truly amazing relationship. I hope you have found someone you share the big 3 with or find them soon! Never settle for less than the best! Thanks for reading!

Tips To Get The Perfect Summer Body

Summer is approaching, and my summer clothes are going to be coming out of hiding. I can just feel my bikinis staring me down. I’m starting to feel that summer body anxiety, which is ridiculous because I should just love and except my body the way it is. To be honest though, I want to have a slamming bod this summer. So, since March 1st, I have turned over a new leaf, and decided to take some action in pursuing being hot this summer. My current goals and to have a flat stomach, get rid of the cellulite on the back of my legs, and clear up my acne. Just three simple things I will be manifesting in my journey. I have noticed some improvements, it has been about two weeks and I thought I would share some of the things I have been doing. If you want to join me on my hot girl summer transformation then keep on reading.

So, me being the manifester I am, being thin and hot is simply a mindset. With that being said, we are going to tell ourselves in the mirror everyday that we look amazing, super thin, and basically whatever else we want to achieve. If we keep on saying it to ourselves, we will eventually start to believe it and it will become our reality, but we obviously have to take steps to achieve our goals.

Make a Workout Calendar

This seriously has changed my life, and I will continue to do this every month. Basically what is, is at the start of each month write a workout on each day you plan to workout on your calendar. This way you already have a workout plan in mind and you made time for it. Then, when you finish your workout you can cross it off, and let me tell you it is the best feeling in the world. I have mine on one of those dry erase calendars that way it is easy to change it each month, and it’s only for my workouts. I have it on my fridge, so if one day I don’t do one of the workouts, I have to look at that square and I never get to cross out. This calendar has kept me so motivated to workout and it has actually helped working out fit into my schedule.

Drink Apple Cider Vinegar

I know what you’re thinking but, I feel like it actually works. Every morning I have been drinking water with a tablespoon and a half of ACV, half of a lemon, and a dash of cinnamon with ice cubes. It tastes like a funky lemonade. I definitely do not recommend taking a shot strait of ACV, but adding it to your water can have some benefits. I am no expert, but I am going to list some benefits or drinking ACV: It has been known to improve your metabolism, studies show that it prevents weight gain, and it has been known to suppress appetite. With that being said, I now have my ACV drink every morning. You only need to drink this right when you wake up, and if you want you can drink it right before bed as well.

Have An Exercise Competition

There is truly nothing more motivational than a healthy competition. You can do this with your friends, family, or your co-workers. I don’t know what it is but when I get notifications on my Applewatch that one of my friends completed an exercise, it immediately makes me want to exercise. Also, at work, my co-workers and I have a blank calendar print out. Each day we workout, we get to write our name down for that day. Seeing other people workout just keep you on your game, because if they can do it, so can you!

Drink Peppermint Tea

Okay, this is the last drink I have, I swear. I have been super bloated lately and I have no idea why. So I looked up different ways to naturally reduce bloating that was cheap and not a supplement. I saw that peppermint is a great tea to drink after your meals. Like I said before, I am not a doctor and all the information I get is from Google. Here are some health benefits from drinking peppermint tea after your meals: Helps with digestion, nausea, gas and bloating. Since I frequently have all of these issues, I though I would give it a try. I haven’t noticed anything super drastic, but I do look and feel less bloated. I drink this every-night after dinner.

Stop Adding Extra Salt

This has always been such a bad habit of mine. I just love salt. SUE ME. But, salt is the enemy. We have some how been tricked into loving salt when there are so many other more amazing and healthier spices. There are so many health problems that have been linked to salt. Salt retains water in your body, and if you cut it out you can lose pants sizes. We need to grow up and cut that stuff out of our diet. Your fries are salty enough and you don’t need to add more. Just start by not adding extra salt to your food, if your food is tasting a little bland add some garlic powder or some Italian seasoning. I have been consciously avoiding salt when cooking, and my food still tastes really good. You just need to start adding different seasonings and appreciate those flavors for what they are. Your taste buds literally need to be trained to not crave salt. Be weary of those adobo and pre-mixed seasoning combinations, they have a ton of salt in them. They have salt-free options such as Mrs. Dash.

Pre-Make Your Lunch

I know this one goes without saying, but it really makes a difference. If you have a healthy option right in front of you, it is convenient and you will most likely stick to eating healthy. When you don’t prepare your lunch before hand and lunch-time comes around you’re busy and either order take out or make that unhealthy frozen meal in your freezer. If you just take some time to make your lunch the night before, or meal prep in the beginning of the week, it will help keep your healthy eating on track. You can do this if work from home too, it’s not weird to prepare your lunch the night before. Make sure your lunch is healthy, filling, and satisfying so you won’t be snacking in an hour.

There you have it, these are just some of the things I have been doing to try and get that bikini body. I will also be posting my go-to youtube workouts. I hope that this helps someone, please be safe when trying to lose weight. Remember that you are beautiful no matter what, and being healthy and feeling good is all that really matters. Stay positive and be kind to yourself. Thanks for reading! Hot Girl Summer Commence.

Crystals You Should Be Carrying

Perhaps you don’t believe in crystals but, I truly think they work. I have always wanted to get into crystals and I can admit, it can be intimidating at first. No worries tho, I will give you the rundown. Crystals have special healing properties and their own powerful energies. Having these positive energies around you can have a big affect on your life and your mood. Each crystal has its own specific characteristics and can help you depending on what you want to achieve. If you carry them around with you, you can inhibit the characteristics of that crystal. When I say “carry them around,” you can put them anywhere; in your pocket, in your purse, and even just carry it in your hand. If you would like the crystal cheat code and want to better your life, then keep reading.

Rose Quartz

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Are you looking for love? Rose quartz is the perfect crystal for you. This is basically the crystal of love. This crystal will open your heart up and attract unconditional love. I suggest bringing this crystal on a first date. When I was single would actually bring this crystal in my purse when I went out to the bars. It gave me good vibes and confidence when talking to guys. It also promotes self-love, which can be very beneficial when looking for new love. You can carry this crystal raw, they also make jewelry out of this crystal.

Citrine

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If you are looking for abundance and wealth look no further. Being around the stone Citrine has many benefits, one of them is motivation. This stone will get rid of your self-doubt and your negative energies. This crystal will make you more creative and help you stick with your ideas. It will also boost your confidence when you are talking about your passions. I recommend bringing this stone to interviews, business meetings, and whenever you are stuck and need some motivation. This stone will better your life and bring abundance in you personal and professional life.

Amethyst

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This crystal is one of my favorites, it promotes healing and growth. This stone was very important to me after I got out of my long-term relationship. Whenever I felt anxious or doubtful about my decisions, I would hold this crystal up to my chest and it would make me feel better. If you are going through a rough patch I would suggest keeping this stone in your pocket or purse, just so you have quick access to it. This stone truly has a great energy in it that can boost your mood and energy immediately. So, carry this around with you, whenever you are feeling down or not yourself, you can just reach down, and hold it in your hand, and let that positive energy transfer over to you.

Carnelian

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This stone is for my people that need some extra sexual energy. This stone promotes individuality, harmony, and sexual energy. It is also know as the stone of luck. This stone will help you make positive life choices and will provide you with courage. This stone also makes you more confident and makes you not jealous of others. I suggest you carry this stone out to the bars with you if you are looking for a one-night-stand or a fling. Or, If you are looking for a sexy night out with your man. This will make you more confident in life and in the bedroom.

Selenite

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This crystal will bring you clarity and will cleanse your environment. This crystal gets rid of all negative energies and promotes organization. I would recommend you keep this crystal on your desk or in your home. This crystal is beautiful to look at and has such amazing benefits for your home and your work place. When working or even thinking near this crystal, will help you connect with your higher self. It will help keep you calm and level headed.

Sodalite

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This stone is good for you to express your feelings. When in a relationship it’s sometimes hard to separate your head from your heart, this stone can help you do that. When in conversation, this stone helps you come across as your true self. I recommend you have this stone on you when you are about to have a difficult conversation. This stone is beneficial for break-ups or if you are quitting your job. This stone will help you remember the true reason you put yourself in these difficult situations. Change is hard, but definitely necessary, this stone will help keep your head in check and your heart on the understanding side.

Other ways to incorporate crystals

In our current society crystals are so popular. There are so many different ways you can incorporate crystal in your everyday life.

A facial roller – They sell these things everywhere, and they make them with all different kinds of crystals and stones. I personally have a Jade Stone roller and I got it from TJ Maxx for only $10. I highly recommend these rollers because, not only do they help your skin, they also having great healing properties behind them.
Jewelry – Jewelry is a great way to keep your crystal and stones close to you. Not only do they look super cute, but they also bring positive energies your way. They make stones and crystal in all type of jewelry these days, such as bracelets, earrings, necklaces, and also rings.
Home decor – With crystal being so mainstream, there are so many ways to decorate your home with crystals. Since these crystals provide so much positive effects and energies, having them in your home is such a great idea. There are cute decorative statement piece crystals, book-ends, and also status made of crystals.
Crystal corners – I have one of these and I recommend everyone have a crystal corner in their room or their home. To make a crystal corner, I would recommend picking out a bowl or catch all that makes you feel good. On this dish you would lay out all the crystal that make you feel good. Whenever I am feeling down, or need a recharge, I go to my crystal corner and touch some stone to make me feel better. If you keep them all in your room they can provide some positive energy in your room.

Small Things to Brighten your Significant Others Day

Do you ever want to do something special for your partner?

It’s always important to make your partner feel special and celebrated. Obviously, they should also be making you feel special as well. I saw a post on social media asking what is the male equivalent of a woman getting flowers. I was thinking a lot about this question. My boyfriend always picks up the dinner bill and pays for our groceries; and don’t get me wrong, I pick up the check here and there. I like to do small things for my boyfriend to show that I appreciate him in a small way, so it not to over the top.

You should try doing some of these things if you notice your boyfriend or partner is constantly paying for everything. Little things to show you care can go a long way. Boys deserve to be spoiled too, sometimes. Here are some ideas I have came up with that you can do that will make your partner feel extra special.

Buy them a succulent from Trader Joe’s

I did this for my boyfriend once and he loved it. Succulents are super cute and easy to take care of. Every time he looks at the succulent, he will think of you. Also, plants have been proven to boost your mood, productivity, and creativity.

Get their favorite snack when you’re food shopping

I know when my boyfriend ever brings me back some candy after he runs to 7/11, I get so happy. It lets me know that he was thinking about me. So, next time you’re at the store, pick up his favorite snack, candy, or soda. I guarantee he will feel special because he sees you pay attention to what he likes and he knows that you think about him even when he is not around.

Pick up the drink tab

I know, I know, excuse me why? But, sometimes is nice for you to pick the bill up. Say you guys go out to get drinks, and you put your card down. Your boyfriend will probably be shocked, then fall even more in love with you. Since they see you made the gesture of paying for drinks, you don’t have to feel bad ordering something expensive for dinner.

Make their lunch for them

It’s always nice to have a home-made meal. You can make their favorite food and pack their favorite snack. This takes the work away from them and it also lets them know that you notice what they like to eat. Then, you can sneak in a little dessert or candy for them. You can also write a cute note to let them know how much you love them.

Do a surprise spa night for them

Since men are not usually used to getting pampered, this can be a real treat for them. You can do a face mask, give them a little facial, pluck their eyebrows, and give them a scalp/body massage. This will relax them and make them feel special. Everyone loves being pampered.

Write them a letter

Even if they are with you all the time, writing them a note is a cute way to remind them of how much you care about them. You can write about your favorite things they do, and even thank them for being a great partner. It is always nice to hear words of affirmation from your partner, and to hear how loved you are. They can also look back on the letter if you are ever apart and they miss you.

Wake the up with breakfast in bed

Waking up to the smell of bacon and eggs is always a treat. They will be so excited that they have a nice breakfast already made for them. It lets them know that you were thinking about them and want to make them feel special.

So, there you have it, these are somethings you can do to brighten your partners day. Always make sure you are equally as celebrated and pampered. But, if your man is always spoiling you and buying you things, it’s always nice to return the favor. Remember, everyone deserves to be appreciated and celebrated (only if they are nice to you) Thanks for reading. xox.

How to Get Man

So, if you are here you’re probably single and looking. Look no further, I have some great tips you can try next time you are around someone you are interested in. First off, establish what you are looking for. Do you want a relationship? Do you just want just a hook-up? Or perhaps you just want a summer fling. I got you covered. Obviously, you need to go about mingling with men differently depending on what you want out of them. When going to the bars to meet someone, you are going to need to be confident, fun, and an enhanced version of yourself. You need to show the guy you are interested in, that you are the best girl in the bar. So, keep reading if you want to know how to get a guy to like you.

If your looking for a Relationship/ fling:

So, you’re ready to settle down. Perhaps you have a guy in mind already or you’re looking for a new guy. Relationships are interesting, you need to be the perfect mix of a housewife and a whore. Obviously, you don’t need to be but, ideally that is what every guy is looking for. A lady in the street and a freak in the sheets. Now, unpopular opinion: sleeping with a guy on the first date, does not mean he won’t not date you. I always sleep with guys on the first date and they usually want to date me. Though, I usually go for good guys, that could play apart. LOL.

My secret for getting guys to fall in love with me is actually quite simple. You just need to make it all about him. So, you’re talking to a guy or you met him online and it’s your first date. Make it all about him. It’s as simple as that. Ask him questions and while he is answering seem genuinely interested. Try not to talk over him or interrupt with your own story. Just keep asking him questions and positively comment on them. Continue asking him more and more questions from the story he is telling, and get personal with them. Ask him about his family and his parents. Make him feel super special. See, men are used to always giving the girl all the attention and always asking about the girl. But, when the girl starts to ask about him he will see you as different. No other girl has gave him attention like this before and he will see you as caring. He will feel so special around you that he won’t be able to stop thinking about you.

In conclusion: On your first date, just talk about him and make him feel special. Ask him questions and seem genuinely interested in what he is saying.

If you want just a hook-up:

Sometimes you just need a good dickking, and hey I don’t blame you. We all need a good hook-up and hey if he’s good, he might even become a recurring nighttime pal. So, this one is by far the easiest to accomplish, just be upfront and bold. What straight man doesn’t want to have sex with a woman? But, hypothetically there’s a really hot guy and a bunch of other girls also want him, you need to stand out from the rest.

First, you need to feel confident and sexy. You’re getting laid tonight so, take all your necessary precautions. Shave your legs, put on sexy underwear, wear an outfit you will feel confident in. If you look good on the outside, you will feel good on the inside. Now that you are ready to go we need a drink. Alcohol makes one-night-stands much better. If this man is standing/sitting at the bar, you better be marching right next to him when you order your drink. NOW, let me give you one line. After you order your drink I want you to look at him and ask, “Hey you look familiar, do you go to my gym?” BOOM. You’re set. First off, he’ll be flattered that he looks like he goes to the gym and it’s a great conversation starter. Then, you can talk about the gym and other things you like to do.

Don’t forget we are touchy. Make sure you touch his arms or his leg if your sitting. You can do this after he says something funny while you’re laughing, or if he says something relatable to you, you can give him a little backhand tap while saying, “OMG stop, me too!” Since we’re looking to hook-up we want to be extra flirty. Don’t be afraid to crack some jokes and mess with him. Maybe make fun of him a little (about something small), then after he reacts grab his arm and be like “I’m kidding” while laughing. After, you’re close touching and you’re hopefully a little tipsy, you lean in for a kiss. Hopefully he will reciprocate.

Now that we know he’s interested and you’re talking to him, you’re going to need to prolong the night. A bonus would be if your friends, ended up talking to his friends, that way you could possibly move the party back to someone’s house/apartment. Wherever the night takes you, either to another bar or back to someone’s place, be next to him when the night starts to wined down. Whenever people start to go home, you can just ask him, “Wanna come over?” He will most likely say yes! And, there you go.

To wrap all of that up: 1. Wear something sexy, 2. Get a drink, 3. Go up to him and ask him if he goes to your gym, 4. Flirt by laughing at his jokes, touching his arm, and messing with him, 5. Kiss him, 6. Invite him over. There you go ladies a classic hook-up scenario, Good Luck!

The Best Workouts on Youtube

My Fitness Journey

I have a weird relationship with exercise, sometimes I am the perfect definition of fitness, and other times I am a perfect couch potato. Pre-corona virus I was an exercise queen, everyday after work I would go to the gym for an hour; I had a great routine. During Covid, Luckily spring was upon us, and the weather was fairly warm. I was not working, so I was basically living my dream of getting paid to do nothing. It was awesome! Everyday I would sleep till 9, go for a run, do a half an hour of abs, and life was good. For the rest of spring and the entire summer I was on Long Island. I was eating good, going for 2 hour walk/runs, doing HIIT workouts, and a 30 minuet ab workout everyday. I mean how could I not, I wasn’t working. Life was good and I was skinny AF.

Flash forward a few months later: I went from months of not working, to working full time, everyday. It was ROUGH. Working out got really hard, I was waking up at 6:30, leaving my house at 7am, then I would come home at 5pm. Obviously a big change. And on top of that I canceled my gym membership. Since then, ended up moving to the city and my exercise issue got even harder. I started to feel very sad, working out was such a huge part of me and I was doing so well and I felt like I had fallen off. So, I started waking up at 5:30 am to workout, it was hard. I also tried working out when I got home from work, but my excess school work made me too stressed to workout. Things got hard and frustrating for me. But, I am now determined with this new year coming up to make working out a priority!

I want to really try and work on my body this year and I want to get back on track and stay motivated. You guys should try and follow along with me. I decided not to join a gym and fully commit to working out at home: This is very scary to me because I love running on the treadmill, but things change and we must adapt. So, without further ado, here are my favorite at-home workouts on youtube:

1. 45 Minute Cardio Boxing @popsugarfitness

This first one is from POPSUGAR, this cardio boxing workout is literally amazing. You workout every part of your body, big emphasis on your booty! This is my go to workout, I highly recommend it! You will definitely feel the burn and also feel amazing after.

2. 10 Minuet Calorie Killer @pamela_rf

This workout net workout by Pamela is amazing, a little challenging though. I love a good HIIT workout and this one has a lot of moves I really enjoy. This queen in the video is so hard core, literally does not take a water break at all, but she got that fit bod! Definitely keeps me motivated! Do recommend!

3. Intense Cardio @vickyjustiz

This workout has quickly became my new favorite. She includes super fun moves and I always feel good afterwards. She struggles along with you and provides you with lots of motivation. This is definitely a hard work out with a lot of jumping, but it is very doable.

4. Ab Routine @gabriellawhited

So this video is a little special to me lol, because it is the first youtube workout video I ever followed. And, I actually saw results. It’s a quick ab workout, I never knew what to do for my abs and when I found this video, it changed my life. I started following it everyday and I noticed a big difference in my body. 10 Minuet cardio paired with this ab exercise is GOLD! Bonus, this video is great for beginners!

5. Fat burning HIIT @madfit.ig

This is another quick and challenging workout. Really great if your having a busy day and wanna squeeze in a quick one. Just pair this with an ab workout and you’re good to go.

6. 30 Minuet Tabata @popsugarfitness

I will not lie this workout is rough! This a tabata exercise, and let me tell you, you might cry. (In a good way though, kinda) Each workout is a short amount of time so, makes it a little more tolerable. The guy hosting the video is so funny and keeps you motivated. A must try workout! Definitely recommend!

So, there you go! These are some of my favorite at home Youtube workouts. Feel free to join me on my at home workout journey. Also, check out more of these creators videos, they have a bunch of awesome at home and at the gym exercises you can try! Good luck, Have fun, and never give up! You got this queen!

Week-Night Dinner Ideas

I used to eat the same thing everyday, and honestly I am okay with doing that. My Ex- boyfriend on the other hand, was not. So, I was forced to find new things to make for dinner every night, and let me tell you, it’s not an easy task. Here, I will list some week night dinner ideas for you. The only catch is that I don’t have any recipes, sorry lol. But, feel free to use these as ideas and make them your own, you can find the recipes for them on Pinterest!

Week 1

Monday: Beef, brown rice, onion, broccoli bowl

Tuesday: Crockpot chicken tacos

Wednesday: Hamburgers

Thursday: pierogis with onions

Friday: Pizza take-out

Week 2

Monday: Meatball sliders

Tuesday: Crunchy beef tacos

Wednesday: Baked chicken cutlets with couscous

Thursday: pancakes and sausages

Friday: Sushi take-out

Week 3

Monday: Hotdogs

Tuesday: Taco salad

Wednesday: Crockpot beef stew

Thursday: Ravioli with vodka sauce

Friday: Steak and mashed potatoes

Week 4

Monday: Rotisserie chicken

Tuesday: Beef quesadilla

Wednesday: BLT with avocado

Thursday: Lasagna

Friday: Wing night

Hope this inspired you for some easy week night meals when you just cant think of anything else to make! Happy cooking!

How I Beat Constipation

If you’re reading this, you are probably having trouble pooping. I once was never able to poop. I had absolutely no idea what was wrong with me. All of a sudden I noticed that it had been weeks and no poop. When I did poop, it was tiny little balls. It looked like bunny pellets. I knew something had to be wrong with me. I was able to figure out a way to get my pooping back to normal. Since I believe I have the secret, I would like to share my findings. If you want to get your pooping back on track, then keep reading.

I decided to take matters into my own hands and tried and treat my constipation myself. I spoke to my mom and my friends about what I should do. My friend suggested stool softeners, so I bought a bottle and started taking them every morning. For the first couple of days it seemed to make my poop softer, but then after like 3 days I was back to my usually hard, tiny-ball poop. I continued to take my stool softener anyways. After about five months with no poop and lots of pushing, I decided I needed a new method. I wanted to try laxatives. I went to Walmart and bought a some laxative pills on sale for 88 cents. LOL. I read the instructions and took three of the pills. Approximately six hours later I was in the bathroom with diarrhea for an hour. It was terrible, yet so reliving at the same time. I decided that this was my new routine. During the week, I would suffer through without pooping; then Sunday night, I would pop my three little laxatives and poop my weeks worth of food out at 6 am Monday morning. (This method was probably my biggest mistake in my pooping journey.)

My body was becoming dependent on the laxatives, no pills = no poop. My poop became a regular concern of mine. Everyone new my pooping problem and was worried about me. I literally made the topic of poop one of my usual conversation starters, it actually came with some great tips and advice. Almost everyone told me to lay off the laxatives, try the Smooth Moves Tea, and more stool softeners. I then found a stool softener with stimulant laxatives. This worked very well for me, I would take it every morning around 8am then I would be on the toilet pooping by 11am. I used this method for about a year. I did this until I started feeling extremely nauseas every morning. I got really nervous and wondered what could be causing it. I decided to stop taking my stool softener, and boom no more nausea. Only problem I was still stuck with my constipation.

My mom one day bought me the Benefiber tablets. They were fruity and delicious, I would take 3 pills, 3 times a day. This worked really well for the first week but then slowly my poop went form very soft to hard again. I continued to do this for a few months, until one day I went to CVS and they were sold-out. Needing to find another solution I decided to try Meta Mucil, the powder that you mix with water. The first day I tried it, 20 minuets later I was in the bathroom pooping. I continued doing this and everyday I was able to do a good, and soft-poop. I took a trip to the gastroenterologist for her to do some tests on me and make sure my constipation was nothing to worry about. When all my tests came back negative and I had no symptoms that would require a colonoscopy, I was relived. My doctor told me that I should continue taking my Meta Mucil, but to take it twice or three times a day instead of once. She also gave me samples of align the probiotic, with this she also gave me some tips. I can finally say I have cured my constipations. It has been about three months since my doctors appointment and everyday I have a good, soft-poop. Down below I will summarize my results. DISCLOSURE: I am not a doctor these methods are what worked for me and I am sharing incase someone would like to try them :).

The Two Products You Need

Meta Mucil (the powder) I get the large one, made with real sugar.

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2. A Probiotic

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What To Do

– Take the Meta Mucil drink right when you wake up, then again right before you go to bed. (You can also take it a third time in the middle of the day)
– Take the probiotic once everyday after your first meal. Any probiotic brand will do.
– Drink at least 64 oz of water everyday. This is 4, 16oz water bottles. (I usually drink about 80 oz a day.)

Foods that help

Apple
Cucumber
Chia seeds
Broccoli
Green Tea
Brussel Sprouts
Grape Fruit
Kiwi

*These are not proven to help, this is just what I usually eat. A warning: Meta Mucil can cause you to have gas, you might toot a lot. I hope that you guys enjoyed this post and I hope that I have helped someone.

*IMPORTANT: If you are constipated for more than a week you should speak to your doctor. When you are constipated and have abdominal pain, bloody stool, or weight-loss I recommend talking to your gastroenterologist. I am not a doctor, this is just what worked for me. Thanks for reading!

What You Shouldn’t Feel in a Relationship

Note, I am not a relationship expert. You don’t need to take my advice. These are all my own opinions so, you don’t have to take this so seriously.
I have had countless relationships and hook-ups, and I feel like I have learned something new about relationships each time. With each terrible guy, came with a great life lesson, and a better understanding about what I want and need in a partner. That is why I really want people to test out the field, and date multiple people, because you need to learn what you like, and more importantly what you don’t like.

In a relationship you should not feel:

Self conscious

This is a big one for me. I am quite insecure, and it’s okay to be insecure. However, your partner should not be adding to your insecurities. For example: If you have average size boobs and you’re okay with them, but your boyfriend is always liking pictures of girls with big boobs. Now you’re like wait, are my boobs not big enough? You start to doubt yourself and feel not good enough. Your partner should not be putting you down, intentionally or not. If you feel upset because they’re liking really skinny girls photos and it’s making you feel bad about yourself, you should maybe ask him to not do it in front of you or, not do it at all. If they really care about you they will respect your wishes.

Embarrassed

This was a big thing I felt with my Ex. His personality around my friends was really weird, and it genuinely embarrassed me. An example would be whenever your partner gets drunk, they start a fight with you in public and it’s really embarrassing. You shouldn’t feel embarrassed by your partner because you literally have to live with that for forever and you’ll most likely start to resent them. Relationships are way better when you don’t have to worry about your partner embarrassing you.

Lonely

One of the best parts about being in a relationship is another person’s company. But, when you are in a relationship and you’re feeling lonely, something may be up. Perhaps you and your partner have changed or grown apart and you don’t feel that togetherness you once did. Especially if you guys are literally together and you feel lonely. Maybe, have a conversation with them and let them know you are feeling this way, because they might feel the same way.

Annoying

You should definitely not feel like you are annoying your partner. Nothing is worse than you being silly, and your partner shutting you down and telling you to stop. Obviously, there is a time and a place and maybe you need to be more aware of when to be silly but, your partner should embrace your “annoyingness.” If you are in a healthy relationship, your partner or you should not be annoyed by each other all the time. Having to worry if your annoying your partner feels really shitty. Perhaps evaluate your relationship, because if you feel that nothing your partner does annoys you, and everything you do annoys them maybe something is wrong.

Stupid

This is an important one. If your partner has ever non-jokingly called you dumb or stupid, leave them!! A person that cares about you will never belittle you, or call you stupid. That is just them putting you down and being insecure. It’s literally a manipulation tactic so you feel bad about yourself and never leave them. You should NEVER feel put down, or be called stupid by your partner. SMH.

Disgusted

LOL, okay this one is always funny to me, yet so many girls feel discussed by their partners. If the thought of your partner holding your hand, touching you, or kissing you makes you disgusted, thats not a healthy relationship. You should not cringe when your partner tries to be sexual with you. I have been there, when my ex used to kiss me and touch me, I would literally be like can we not do that tonight. He just like really disgusted me. Maybe, if you feel this way it might be time to really evaluate if you still want to be with that person. In contrast, being with someone who you can’t get enough of is way better!

Ugly 🙁

This one makes me so sad. Your partner should be your biggest fan, literally should worship the ground you walk on. If your partner ever calls you ugly or fat, LEAVE THEM! Life is too short to be with an asshole. Imagine looking in the mirror and the person you love is the one causing all of your insecurities and sadness? Makes me so upset and you can do so much better. I truly believe that there is a perfect person for everyone, and your perfect person would never put you down. Even on your worst days you will be beautiful to them.

Hopefully this helped give some clarity to people. Good luck, you are so important and special! You only have one life, so it might as will be perfect, amazing, and nothing short of the best! Never settle or give up on yourself! Love you xox!

What to Expect After Getting Out of a Long-Term Relationship

So, maybe be you just got out of a long-term relationship, or you are thinking of ending your long-term relationship. I have been there, and I made it out okay! This post is based off my experience. Obviously, every relationship ends differently; but I hope this helps you. You only get one life and if your relationship is not amazing, then what are you doing? You deserve a person that understands you, respects you, and make you feel important.

Living Situation

If you guys were living together obviously, someone had to leave. Hopefully you guys don’t own a house together yet. In my situation, I moved back home. (Which was 4 states away and a 10-hour drive) I unfortunately did not have much money saved up and ended up having to live in my childhood bedroom, at my parents’ house. Did I mention the twin bed? I immediately gave my room a makeover. Which was very necessary. After you were living with someone for a while, you need to re-discover your personal style. Decorate your room in a way that makes you happy. You need to really have a nice space that you enjoy being in. Sleeping alone at first will feel lonely but, you will get used to it, I promise.

Job

This only applies to you if you moved home from another state or city like me. I had to quit my job, which I loved. I only gave a one-week notice, and I explained the situation and my boss understood. Sadly, when I moved back home, I was back to job searching. This was quite difficult, I was out of work for about 2 months. Don’t worry though, the job situation is tough, but everything happens for a reason. There are so many different opportunities and experiences ahead.

Dating, again

This is very exciting. Putting yourself out there can be scary though. You might have some low self-esteem after you’re breakup, this is normal. I remember having panic attacks that I would die alone. But, once you start going on all of the dating apps and seeing all of the single men, you start to get hopeful and excited. Meeting new people can be very refreshing. It is important to date around and meet new people. Learning what you do and do not like is important for your future relationships.

Your first date

This will be a big step for you, after dining with the same person for years, you have new person to talk about new things with. It might not go as planned or how you thought but, if anything it is great experience.

Your first kiss

This might be on your first date, which is fine. Mine was not on the first date I went on (I did not end up kissing that guy.) My first kiss was with a friend of a friend, so not a complete stranger, but someone new. I was so nervous about my first kiss, after only kissing one person for the past few years, I knew it would feel weird. With my first kiss, as I noticed him moving in to me, I got so much butterflies. I promise that you will meet a new person that you will feel butterflies with again

Your Ex’s Family and Family:

In my situation, we ended on really good terms. I followed his entire family on every social media platform. What was I supposed to do unfollow all of them? I actually felt really awkward posting things on snapchat and Instagram of my new life. I deleted some of his friends, but I ended up keeping his sisters on Instagram, I will eventually delete them though. It has been a year and a half I should just delete them. In conclusion, just delete them, they’re out of your life no need to keep them on your socials.

Your first relationship after

This happened really quick for me. About a month after my breakup, I ended up dating someone new. I felt really awkward posting it to social media, because I felt bad about moving on so quickly. I knew my Ex and his family all followed me, and what would they think about me moving on so quickly? This was the guiltiest part, because I knew my ex had not moved on yet, and he was taking the breakup harder than me. Don’t worry though, you don’t owe them anything, and you need to be the main character of your own life and live it to the fullest

Don’t worry you got this! There is a world of opportunities out there. Never feel stuck in a relationship just because you have invested a lot time into it. If you are not happy, or something feels off, this is your sign to end things. There are so many new people to meet, new experiences to have, and new places to travel. As someone who had experienced it and got through it; I can say that my life has 100% improved since my breakup. Dare I say it was the best decision of my life. Relationships and life partners contribute so much to our happiness and mental health. When choosing a person, they should make you feel nothing short of amazing. Relationships can be hard at times but, they should not be hard everyday. I believe there truly is a perfect person out there for everyone. Believe in yourself and end that sub-par relationship! And a tip for people, sometimes opposites do not attract. Love you xox!