Why Aren’t You Horny?

Let me off by saying, I am not a doctor. If you feel like you have a real medical condition you should definitely consult with your doctor.

So, one of my friends told me how she’s never horny and never in the mood to have sex. Her boyfriend tries to have sex with her every night, but she’s just not turned on. When I heard this, I had some major déjà vu. After she told me how she just isn’t horny anymore, I told her about my own experience with my ex-boyfriend.

When I was dating my ex, I was never horny. We dated for about three years but, for the last year of our relationship I was just not in the mood anymore. I realized we had nothing in common, but I still wanted to keep our relationship together and keep trying. As time went on, I just never wanted to have sex anymore, and I had no idea why. I am a very horny person and I usually always want to have sex, so I was worried. I thought something was wrong with me. Even if I was alone watching porn, I wouldn’t get horny. We ended up breaking up and BAM, I was horny again. Like the flip of a switch, once he wasn’t in my life anymore, I got horny again.

So, that’s my scenario, I wasn’t in love anymore. I think me, not being horny, was just my body’s way of telling me “He ain’t the one!” My friend insists she’s very in-love with her boyfriend, and she wants to marry him one day. She just does not know why she’s not horny. I figured that if my friend was feeling this way, there are probably many other women experiencing this as well. I thought I would come up with some reasons why women may not want to have sex and then also some tips on how to get yourself in the mood. So, keep reading and I hope this helps!

Reasons You May Not Be Horny:

Time of day

Most people initiate sex at night but, maybe you’re not horny at nighttime. Your lady part are tired and they would rather be sleeping. So, you should just listen to your body throughout the day. Notice when you get turned on, is it in the morning? After lunch? Right when you get off work? It could be whenever, and you should just roll with it. It is normal for someone not to be horny all day, every day, so just take note of when your body is in the mood.

The location

Some people don’t have many locations to do it in and, there’s nothing sexy about having sex in your childhood bedroom with your parent’s downstairs. Even in your bed, maybe you associate your bed with something negative. If you are uncomfortable in the setting that you are in, try doing it somewhere else. Try and find a nice location that you are comfortable in.

Medication

There are many medications that can affect your sex drive. Consider talking to your doctor and finding out your other options.

Insecurities

Maybe you’re not horny because your just so self-conscious about your body. The thought of your partner seeing you naked makes you sick and you just really don’t feel sexy with your clothes off. Try doing it in the dark, or maybe consider working out and eating healthy so you feel better. If nothing works, I recommend talking to a therapist.

They suck at sex

Perhaps you’re not getting horny because your partner sucks at having sex. They aren’t giving you any foreplay, or they don’t know how to please you. Why would you be excited about having sex when you know you’re not even going to cum. You should definitely be communicating with your partner and always letting them know what you like, and don’t like.

You lost feelings

Now for the reason you probably don’t want to hear but, maybe you just don’t like your partner anymore. If you’re not horny, maybe it’s because you’re body is telling you that you are not ment to be with this person. You two have grown apart and this relationship is holding you back from something better

Ways To Get Horny:

Watch porn

Porn can be a very good way to get you in the mood. You and your partner can even watch it together. Or, right before you guys are about to do it, run to the bathroom and put on some sexy clips to get you ready.

Get a sexy outfit

When you feel sexy, you can even turn yourself on. Just get an outfit that you think you look incredibly bomb and scandalous and see how it makes you feel. You will want to show your partner how sexy you look and that can get you in the mood. When you look sexy, you will most likely feel sexy and confident.

Touch yourself

Before you guys have sex, try and run to the bathroom and start to rub yourself. Maybe even put some porn on. Don’t take too long in the bathroom, but just the right amount of time to be ready to go. You can also touch yourself before you go to house, and in the car ride over, just picture the both of you guys having sex.

Listen to a sex podcast

I love learning new sexy tips on sex podcasts. After I learn a new sex tip or position, it makes me want to try it myself. Switching things up in the bedroom and trying new things with your partner can be exciting and can get you in the mood.

Buy a new sex toy

Sex toys can be an amazing way to spice up you sex life. They also make it way easier to cum. If you know there is a guaranteed orgasm, then you will be more inclined to participate in sex. Adam and Eve is a great sex toy brand, I will also link a vibrator from amazon. Both of these companies will send sex toys in discrete packaging!

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With all of this being said, there are many reasons on why you might not be horny. It’s totally normal, and most people have experienced it. But, if your partner wants to have sex and you don’t, do not feel pressured to. Make sure the sex is always consensual. If you are determined to make the relationship work and your partner wants to have sex way more than you, they should always respect your decision and make you feel safe and comfortable. I hope this article can help you guys.

Stop Being Jealous of Pretty Women

Do you ever just look at a pretty girl and think “OMG I hate her. I have no idea why I just hate that girl.” Why do we as women do this? It’s most likely because we are jealous of that beautiful queen, and we’re mad we don’t look like her. This must stop!! It’s not fair to them. We need to stop hating on beautiful women. Period.

Next time you’re walking in the street and you see a woman that is way prettier than you and you start feeling jealous; I want you to think in your head “YAS QUEEN, SLAY.” Instead of hating on her, hype her up in your head and use that as motivation. After you see her, you need to think that one day you will be as hot and as confident as her.

After you see a pretty girl, think “why do I feel jealous of her?” Is it her hair, her expensive purse, her thin arms, or her tan skin? Try and figure out what is making you envious of her. Once you’ve figure it out, then you can work on those things on yourself. If you want her expensive purse, then hustle harder at work. If you want her thin arms, hit up the gym. If you want her tan skin, try a new self-tanner. Insecurity and jealousy come from within. So, next time you are feeling jealous of another girl just try and hype her up in your head and think one day, I will be a queen like her!

Why should you hype her up? Women are always bashed on by men and other women, but all women are the same. We need to be on the same side and lift each-other up. You get a boost of motivation and energy from hyping people up. Positive energy is way more powerful than negative energy. So, just try it and see how it makes you feel. I guarantee this will make you feel good. Boosting people up, boosts you up. Positivity breeds positivity. So think positive thoughts, drink water, and be kind to pretty girls and give yourself a break because we are all queens!

How To Manifest A Boyfriend

*A step by step guide at the end

So, I just happened to manifest my boyfriend, and I didn’t even know it. I didn’t even know what manifestation was at the time. I will explain, but first let me preface this by saying at the time I had just gotten out of a 3-year relationship. My ex and I broke up because we had nothing in common, different goals, and different humors. He was always in a bad mood and always super serious. I am a very silly, joking around person who is always in a good mood. I was constantly feeling brought down by his negative energy and was honestly very happy to be out of that relationship.

I moved back in with my parents and was looking for a fresh start. Within the first week of returning home I had already been on two dates with two different men. I was still confused and not quite sure what I was going to do next. I was really just looking to hook up with a bunch of people and if I happen to vibe really well with one of them, I would date them. One part of me was excited to start a new chapter and the other part was scared I would die alone.

The Manifestation

Since I moved back home from a different state, I was unemployed and had a lot of free time on my hands. Feeling lonely, one day about a week after I moved home, I decided to start a journal. I wanted to write about all the dates and men I was going to meet while I was single. I first started to write down everything I wanted from a boyfriend, like personality traits. I put funny, kind, caring, and silly. The next thing I wrote down was what I wanted to feel in the relationship. I put passion and laughing all the time. I simply put this away and forgot about it. Doing this was kind of like a little mind dump when I was lonely. I didn’t even want to look back or think about it again. (I will insert a photo of my journal entry at the end)

Now, I must say at the time I did not even know what manifestation was or how the law of attraction worked. I ended up dating one of those guys I met on the first weekend I moved home. We dated after one month of seeing each other. He was honestly a perfect match for me and everything I wanted in a partner. The longer we dated the more I saw how much we had in common. He was so funny, kind, and always in a good mood. During quarantine, which was about a year since we started dating, I heard about manifestation. I read up on it and got really into it. One of the YouTube videos I watch mentioned how if you look back on your life, you can see that you probably accidentally manifested things without even realizing. Ways to manifest things include: visualization, vision boards, and also writing things down; Which is what I did. It all clicked, I had accidentally manifested my boyfriend. I looked back in the journal I wrote in a year ago and went back to the page about what I wanted in a boyfriend. There, I saw all of the characteristics and all the feeling I wrote down had came true. It was like the universe read that page and put this person right in my path. I look back and it’s completely mind boggling and amazing to me. If you want to manifest a relationship then follow these 6 steps!

How to Manifest a Perfect Boyfriend

Step one: Get a journal
Step two: Make a list on every personality trait you want in a partner
Step three: Make a list of what you want to feel in your relationship
Step four: Write a little paragraph of your idea of love and what you think a relationship should be like
Step five: Close the journal and forget you even wrote that page
Step six: Be patient and let the universe work its magic

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