So, maybe be you just got out of a long-term relationship, or you are thinking of ending your long-term relationship. I have been there, and I made it out okay! This post is based off my experience. Obviously, every relationship ends differently; but I hope this helps you. You only get one life and if your relationship is not amazing, then what are you doing? You deserve a person that understands you, respects you, and make you feel important.
Living Situation
If you guys were living together obviously, someone had to leave. Hopefully you guys don’t own a house together yet. In my situation, I moved back home. (Which was 4 states away and a 10-hour drive) I unfortunately did not have much money saved up and ended up having to live in my childhood bedroom, at my parents’ house. Did I mention the twin bed? I immediately gave my room a makeover. Which was very necessary. After you were living with someone for a while, you need to re-discover your personal style. Decorate your room in a way that makes you happy. You need to really have a nice space that you enjoy being in. Sleeping alone at first will feel lonely but, you will get used to it, I promise.
Job
This only applies to you if you moved home from another state or city like me. I had to quit my job, which I loved. I only gave a one-week notice, and I explained the situation and my boss understood. Sadly, when I moved back home, I was back to job searching. This was quite difficult, I was out of work for about 2 months. Don’t worry though, the job situation is tough, but everything happens for a reason. There are so many different opportunities and experiences ahead.
Dating, again
This is very exciting. Putting yourself out there can be scary though. You might have some low self-esteem after you’re breakup, this is normal. I remember having panic attacks that I would die alone. But, once you start going on all of the dating apps and seeing all of the single men, you start to get hopeful and excited. Meeting new people can be very refreshing. It is important to date around and meet new people. Learning what you do and do not like is important for your future relationships.
Your first date
This will be a big step for you, after dining with the same person for years, you have new person to talk about new things with. It might not go as planned or how you thought but, if anything it is great experience.
Your first kiss
This might be on your first date, which is fine. Mine was not on the first date I went on (I did not end up kissing that guy.) My first kiss was with a friend of a friend, so not a complete stranger, but someone new. I was so nervous about my first kiss, after only kissing one person for the past few years, I knew it would feel weird. With my first kiss, as I noticed him moving in to me, I got so much butterflies. I promise that you will meet a new person that you will feel butterflies with again
Your Ex’s Family and Family:
In my situation, we ended on really good terms. I followed his entire family on every social media platform. What was I supposed to do unfollow all of them? I actually felt really awkward posting things on snapchat and Instagram of my new life. I deleted some of his friends, but I ended up keeping his sisters on Instagram, I will eventually delete them though. It has been a year and a half I should just delete them. In conclusion, just delete them, they’re out of your life no need to keep them on your socials.
Your first relationship after
This happened really quick for me. About a month after my breakup, I ended up dating someone new. I felt really awkward posting it to social media, because I felt bad about moving on so quickly. I knew my Ex and his family all followed me, and what would they think about me moving on so quickly? This was the guiltiest part, because I knew my ex had not moved on yet, and he was taking the breakup harder than me. Don’t worry though, you don’t owe them anything, and you need to be the main character of your own life and live it to the fullest
Don’t worry you got this! There is a world of opportunities out there. Never feel stuck in a relationship just because you have invested a lot time into it. If you are not happy, or something feels off, this is your sign to end things. There are so many new people to meet, new experiences to have, and new places to travel. As someone who had experienced it and got through it; I can say that my life has 100% improved since my breakup. Dare I say it was the best decision of my life. Relationships and life partners contribute so much to our happiness and mental health. When choosing a person, they should make you feel nothing short of amazing. Relationships can be hard at times but, they should not be hard everyday. I believe there truly is a perfect person out there for everyone. Believe in yourself and end that sub-par relationship! And a tip for people, sometimes opposites do not attract. Love you xox!
